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Do Guys Fall In Love With Friends With Benefits and How To Tell?



Do guys fall in love with friends with benefits (FWB)? This is not an easy question to answer, but yes they can. When this does happen it often makes things very complicated and doesn’t always end well. For most men, a FWB relationship is the dream. It allows you to hang out with a female friend and have sex without having to worry about all the other responsibilities that come along with being in a relationship. But this doesn’t mean feelings can’t get involved.


Just like women, men are also emotional creatures. While we might not display our feelings or talk about them as often as we should, we blokes are still capable of falling in love. When this happens with a FWB it can turn into quite a sticky situation, especially if the other person doesn’t feel the same.


What Is a Friends With Benefits Relationship?

In simplest terms, it is a relationship between two consenting adults who engage in sex without fear of hurting the other. Further detail is provided by Urban Dictionary that states FWB is, “two friends who trust each other enough to engage in sexual activity without fear of hurting the other’s feelings. The ideal scenario for folk who are not interested in a serious relationship, or who do not have time for one. Not a boyfriend or girlfriend; neither party has to refrain from dating other people. Also not a word tool for a player to have sex with women he does not care about. A smart alternative to random hook-ups.”


On paper, it seems pretty straightforward–it is a no-strings-attached arrangement. It means you can consistently hook up with the same person and have sexy times without having to worry about catching feelings. But with any type of relationship where sex is involved, eventually one of the two will begin to feel something more. It is inevitable.


Do Guys Fall In Love With Friends With Benefits?


This is a pretty broad question, but yes, they can. Like any romantic relationship, when you continually see someone and spend time with them it is only natural that you will start to have feelings for them. For men, sex is a way of connecting with someone and showing they care. While most men are able to separate sex from emotions, it is not always the case. Men also like to hide their true feelings and may not come forward with their feelings in case they are worried about how their FWB will react.


When things first start it can be fun and exciting. You will both enjoy getting to know each other and exploring each other’s bodies. But as the weeks turn into months, it is more probable that you will begin to have feelings for your FWB. Now there is nothing wrong with but it could complicate things. If she doesn’t feel the same then your FWB relationship might need rethinking.


How Do You Know If They Feel the Same?


The easiest way is to ask them. Who would have thought, right? Communicating how you feel is an important part of any relationship, even one with no strings attached. If you start to fall for your FWB then you need to tell them. It will do you no good continuing without telling her as your feelings will only intensify until they come to the surface at the wrong time. Imagine telling her you love her during sex? Probably not a good idea.


If you are worried t what she will say, there are a few signs you can pick up on. If she is seeing other people then she probably doesn’t feel the same. While she is unlikely to tell you flat out that she is sleeping with other people or dating (unless you really do have great communication), if she is evasive when it comes to talking about dating or what she is doing on the weekend, she could be seeing someone else. Or maybe you are trying to see her more often and she keeps blowing you or after sex, she gets dressed and leaves almost immediately. These signs signal she is purely in it for the sex, so it might be best to call this one quits before you fall head over hells any deeper.


How To Keep It Strictly FWB


While you can fall in love with someone you are hooking up with on the regular, if you don’t want that happening, your best bet is to keep things strictly sexual. Don’t start going on dates or hanging out after the deed is done. Get in and get out as quickly as possible. Now obviously you should be doing this in a consenting and respectful way, and be sure your FWB is happy with these terms of the arrangement. You both need to be on the same page to make it work successfully.


Signs You Are Falling In Love With Your Friend With Benefits


Love is one hell of a drug and once you have had a taste it is hard to ignore. When it comes to a FWB arrangement, love can really put a spanner in the works. But how do you know you are falling in love? It isn’t always that obvious for guys to tell. Often we are hooking up with someone and then the next thing you know it is six months down the track and the two of you are moving in together. It can happen in the blink of an eye. But if you are in a FWB situation and it has been a few months and you’re not sure how you’re feeling, these are the signs suggesting you might be in deeper than you first imagined.


1. You Find Yourself Thinking About Her All the Time

2. You Hang Around After Sex

3. You Ask To Hang Out Away From the Bedroom

4. You Introduce Her To Your Freinds

5. You Buy Her Gifts

6. You Get Jealous

7. You Are More Feely Touchy Than Usual

8. You Ask Her About Her Love Life

9. You Are Calling Her And Texting Her Frequently

10. You Don’t Always Have Sex


Friends with benefits is usually the dream relationship for most men, but as you can see, it can easily turn into something much more. You can easily fall in love with your FWB partner. If you do begin to have feelings for your FWB, you need to tell them as soon as you can and see if they feel the same. There is no point carrying on and torturing yourself if she doesn’t want anything more from the relationship. Just remember that when you enter a FWB situation there is always the chance one of you will catch feelings, and if this is the case, be sure to be open and honest so nobody gets hurt in the long run.


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