We quite often get one of the following questions:
“Is he using me for money or sex?”
“Does he use me for the attention I give him?”
“Is he using me for a place to live?”
“And what do I do if the guy I’m seeing is taking advantage of me?”
If you’re in one of the scenarios above, it’s a horrible situation to be in as a woman. Because you’re not sure if your partner has your best interests at heart.
This doubt of not knowing where you stand can make you miserable
Let me ask you something.
Because it’s impossible to really be happy (in a relationship) if you suspect that your man has taken advantage of you, for whatever reason.
This suspicion is not entirely unjustified, because there are quite a few men on this planet that would do that kind of thing without hesitation.
Now, I know this is a tough situation for you. But you know what would be worse?
To find out a few years down the line that he was using you the whole time.
And to prevent this from happening…
In this article, I’ll give you 7 signs you can use to check if your partner is exploiting your goodwill for his own selfish benefits.
Here are the 7 signs he is using you:
1. He’s always making comments on you
A normal man appreciates it when a woman does something nice for him. Most men find it very important to express gratitude to their women.
But a guy who only sees you like an “object to exploit“?
Pff, he always has some negative remarks.
Whatever you do, it’s NEVER good enough for him:
If you’re intimate in bed together, he’ll say that you’re not doing it right.
Or if you cook food for him after a long day of work, and you are exhausted, then he’ll still say that the food isn’t tasting good.
And so on…
When a guy always makes comments on you, and you’re never good enough for him, then it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t want the best for you.
2. You only see him when he needs you
It’s anything but nice, but some men will only use you for attention.
For example, every time things are not going well for him.
Such as:
A hard day at work
He’s feeling down
Or other problems in his personal life
When that occurs, he suddenly wants to see you.
Fortunately, these guys are quite easy to recognize because he ONLY contacts you when he is looking for comfort, or needs to talk with someone.
Then it’s very obvious he’s just seeing you for the attention you give him.
3. He never pays or buys anything for you
However anti-feministic it may be, when a man is really fond of you, he wants to take care of you.
So if you’ve been eating at a restaurant together, he’ll pay the bill for you.
This is his way of saying:
“I like you and I want to take care of you.”
But if a guy never picks up the bill, or may even be financially dependent on you, then there’s a chance that he is taking advantage of the situation and is using you for your money.
But before you jump to any conclusions, please check to see if you recognize any other signs from this article. Just to be on the safe side.
4. He regularly threatens to leave you
A guy who regularly threatens to leave you, is a guy who’s not afraid to lose you.
This is a bad sign. Because a man like that will take advantage of the fact that you like him.
That’s when he’ll for example say things like:
“If you don’t like it, then you can just leave?”
Or:
“If I’m not good enough for you, then why don’t you leave?”
He does this to get his way. And apparently it doesn’t bother him very much that it comes at your expense.
So be very careful when a guy does this to you. Because the chances are extremely high that he is using you.
5. You’re his secret
Yep, it’s that simple.
A man who likes you will be proud to show you to his family and friends.
He would want to walk hand-in-hand with you down the street, so that the whole world sees that you belong to him.
But a guy who keeps your relationship a secret? Or avoids saying hello public.
A guy like that can’t be trusted and does NOT have your best interests at heart.
6. It’s all about sex
Don’t worry, here are some obvious signs you can use to test if a man only wants to sleep with you.
He only wants to meet late at night. OR why haven't you invited him over yet?
The conversations are almost always about sex.
He only wants to meet at home.
You always have sex when you meet up.
You can’t stay over after sex (he always has to get up early the next morning.)
If you recognize more than one of these signs, there is a big chance he’s taking advantage of you.
7. You’re wondering if you’re being used by your partner
This is the clearest and the last sign that he is not having your best interest at heart.
When you ask yourself if he is using you for his own benefits, it’s a terrible sign. Because apparently, there’s already an imbalance in the relationship somewhere.
You give a lot, and he doesn’t really give anything in return. He will commit to paying and showing you as good time one time to show you that he can. Then after that he will begin his mission.
Although you know instinctively that something isn’t right, it’s very difficult to admit it.
But the fact that you’re already asking yourself this, usually says enough.
Now you know better if he is using you, or if he likes you.
If you suspect that he doesn’t have your best interest at heart, and you recognize several of the other signs, then it’s better to let him go, get over him and move on…
Better yet...let him know that he's untrustworthy and go along your merry way. You deserve someone that will support you whenever you are down too. You deserve someone that is stable and ready to live life and have fun with you no matter what. No more slouches, it's time for stability!
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