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What Happens When a Woman Strays - Is it Cheating or Self Reflection

Updated: May 20

Dating someone who uses the phrase "you turned me off" can be a wake-up call to reevaluate the situation and your own feelings. In my personal experience, I found myself in a situation where I was talking to another man while still being married. I was trying to figure things out, but deep down I knew that my husband was the one for me.

When this man asked me if I was happily married and I couldn't give a clear answer, I should have realized that I was already on the wrong path. As I got to know him better, I discovered that he had a troubled past, with a history of jail time and drug use. These red flags should have been enough for me to walk away, but I found myself drawn to him for reasons I couldn't explain.

As our conversations progressed, I started to develop feelings for him and wanted to be honest about where I stood. When I told him that I didn't want to play games and that I was a grown woman, he responded with the statement that I turned him off. This rejection was a blessing in disguise, as it made me realize that I was looking for something in him that I already had in my husband.

He was a great father, had a job as a detective and was a police officer prior to that of 10 years. He took great care of his family and had an amazing relationship with his parents and mine.

I took this opportunity to reevaluate my marriage and communicate my needs to my husband. The spark that had been missing was reignited, and I found myself falling in love with him all over again. I no longer needed to figure things out because I had everything I needed right in front of me.

Looking back, I see that the outside guy was just an escape from my reality, a temporary distraction from the challenges I was facing. I could have easily been turned off by his flaws and past mistakes, but instead, I chose to see the good in him. This experience taught me the importance of self-reflection and the value of what I already had.

Being turned off by someone can be a blessing in disguise. It can lead you to reevaluate your priorities, appreciate what you have, and ultimately find happiness in unexpected places. I am grateful for this experience as it brought me back to where I truly belong – with my loving husband.

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May 20
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Ok. So how is this self reflection. It's giving self growth. Of it would have gone further, it would have been full-blown cheating. I'm really happy you learned from this. Enjoy your family because so many women are searching for what you both have.

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